Have you ever had an experience and thought – “Man! I have been here before, why is this happening to me AGAIN!? Why do I keep attracting the same guy in a different body? Why does each job eventually result in the same chaos? Why is it our family gatherings devolve into the same mess time and time again?”
Well, I believe that we keep getting the same “problem” in different disguises until we finally heal, at a heart level, the deep root of that problem. There have been plenty of times when I thought I REALLY had healed the core issue. And WHAM! There it is again!
Enter The Ascension Spiral. I prefer, when I can remember to, to own (and accept and love) where I am today on the way to where I want to be. And I prefer to do that with the most positive spin I can. Hence “ascension” – we are on the way up, ascending into our highest selves. Even when we are faced with one of our age old demons – again.
I invite you to consider a pattern that keeps showing up for you. If that pattern is worsening, maybe it’s time to take it on – make a conscious decision to look at your response to what’s happening and how you might be contributing to this pattern. This is getting on the ascension spiral – taking responsibility for your experience. If, however, you’ve been doing conscious healing around a particular sticky point and the challenge keeps turning up, play with gathering evidence of how each time the problem has been less devastating. This is being on the ascension spiral. Initially it might feel like the same place, then you notice there is less pain, less fear, less disruption – and eventually more peace, more calm, more freedom. You are ascending.
An example from my life: the Renegotiation (aka boyfriend) and I have been in relationship for 14+ years. In all those years he has NEVER had one issue around money – he has money, great, he doesn’t have money, great. Same, same. I, on the other hand, for the last 14 years (and longer) have had all kinds of issues around money… specifically the FEAR of the lack of money. This has surfaced in our relationship in SO many ways and countless times. You could say this has spiraled around and around in our relationship. Each time it does, gratefully, I get to a new place of peace and breathe the sigh of “finally I’m done with this.” Next thing I know – WHAM! – some new version is back again.
Today I feel blessed to be able to acknowledge how much I blamed him in the early days for all our money troubles, and how now I can clearly see that the drama was (and still is) mine. Luckily, it’s just not so big anymore. At the same time, he recognizes this money craziness I get caught up in and, instead of becoming defensive, now remembers to assure me there is always more than enough. We have both ascended.
I’d love to hear your evidence of spiraling upward. Please share in the comments below.
Spiraling love and ascending hugs, j
Great article, I can definitely relate to this but one thing I have come to realize is however hard it may be is that once you support each other you can do anything. Thanks for sharing.:)
Love your writing.
Absolutely, Jodie, together is better 🙂 I appreciate you posting and your kind words. big hugs!
I love the framing of this. My version is more about me recognizing that the grievance I hold (over and over) or the story I tell (over and over) about how I’m being wronged, is all mine. No one else has changed their position or approach, I’ve just owned it. And oddly, that doesn’t make me get triggered less often or feel less irritated, it just makes me complain about it less (out loud anyway). Still pulling myself up that spiral, I guess!
I hear you Susan. What I seem to notice most is my “getting over it” time shortens exponentially. While I may react at a nuclear level (fortunately this is becoming rarer), I just don’t hang out in it as long. More time left over for FUN! Thank you so much for commenting – love your insight.
This is a great concept, one I haven’t come across before. I love it. So basically, every time you experience this same ‘problem’ you become that little bit more aware, and the ‘problem’ becomes a little smaller, until finally (at some point!) you manage to make it non-existent. GREAT
I’d love non-existent! Especially when it comes to my fear of lack. Thank you, Joanna, for commenting and so glad to be of service 🙂